Don’t Feel Special?
Does your partner have your back? If you mess up in someway, does he/she support you and help you find ways to deal with the issue. Or, does he/she criticize and blame you? How’s that make you feel? Probably lousy, alone and deeply hurt. Whether male or female, I’m sure you want to feel special, important and cherished. And when you’re dismissed, ignored, judged or treated with contempt, you’re most likely feeling unloved, unimportant and unworthy. Your significant other, more than anyone else, is supposed to be your rock, your cheerleader, and number one supporter, and not your parent doling out punishing words.
If you don’t voice yourself and say how this behavior is hurting you without attacking or judging him/her in return, you’re giving the person permission to continue this abusive behavior. And with it, your self-esteem and self-worth diminishes not to mention a building up of resentment.
Copyright © Sho Aoyagi 2013
These articles are meant to be informative and not to be taken as advice. Every person’s situation is different and the articles may not pertain to your speciﬁc situation.
Also, before dealing with any issue with another person or before attempting to look at your own issues, it’s important to consult with an appropriate professional for guidance.