Really, I’m Not Interested
How do you tell someone you’re not interested? Well, being the kind person that you are, this may be difficult for you. But you’ll be much kinder if you simply say “no” to being asked out rather than dragging it out. So,
Be honest. Don’t lie. Be brief.
Try saying something like, “I’m flattered that you asked, but no.” Keep it short and simple, and do it with a warm smile. If he/she’s persistent, say “no” again. But if the person doesn’t get the message and continues, look the person directly in the eyes and with a firm voice say, “I said NO.” There’s no need to get mean or to try to embarrass the person but do set your boundaries.
Whatever you do, don’t give your number to him/her if you’re not interested just to appease the person. Appeasing, lying or explaining why gives your power away. Whereas, standing up for yourself and saying, “no,”without any explanation empowers you. You don’t owe anyone a reason and you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
As for the awkward moments following this interaction, just say, “Thanks. Goodbye.”
Copyright © Sho Aoyagi 2013
These articles are meant to be informative and not to be taken as advice. Every person’s situation is different and the articles may not pertain to your speciﬁc situation.
Also, before dealing with any issue with another person or before attempting to look at your own issues, it’s important to consult with an appropriate professional for guidance.